I have had a boyfriend for about six months now, and he just moved five hours away from me, after only being about an hour and a half away. There were various reasons for this: he lost his job through the place deciding not to retain him permanently just before his probationary period was done; he couldn’t find another job nearby in his area; and he couldn’t afford to stay without a job. I am a 26 year old online student with a shitty full-time job that pays me barely over minimum wage, and I am living with my parents because I can’t afford to both finish my classes and pay rent, food, bills, etc. He is a 28 year old with a college degree who is not a happy camper at the moment because he is unemployed and had to move back into his parent’s basement while job searching. The problem with this is how he is handling this.
We normally talk using an instant messenger, since our schedules are wacky and don’t coincide often, but lately he’s been almost entirely silent. For the past week and a half, I’m lucky if I get two sentences out of him, minus the massive message he sent me, finally, explaining himself. He needs time to adjust to living with his parents again, he’s hardly on his computer while he’s home, and he is just not happy with his situation. Great, but he doesn’t answer texts either. I can’t tell if he’s pushing me away, or if he just isn’t in the mood to talk. I just want at least an acknowledgement that I’m still important to him, but more and more, I’m feeling like he doesn’t actually care.